Popular Christian marriage counsellor and family life coach, Pastor Bisi Adewale, has advised people not to get married if they are uncomfortable with sexual intimacy, describing it as an essential part of a healthy marital relationship.
Speaking during a recent episode of The Honest Bunch Podcast, Adewale emphasized that physical connection is a vital expression of love in marriage — not just a duty to be performed.
“If you don’t like lovemaking, don’t get married,” he said.
“All these missionary journeys that we normally do, we must stop. When you enter the bedroom with your husband, you must never be decent — you must be recent.”
The family life expert explained that many couples make the mistake of treating intimacy as a routine task, rather than as a meaningful bond that keeps emotional and physical closeness alive.
He urged couples, especially married women, to keep their relationships exciting and adventurous, noting that passion and creativity are key to sustaining a strong marital connection.
“Strange women outside don’t sleep with men; they sleep with the memory of men. But an average African woman will only sleep with the genital of her husband. You are to give him something to remember even when he gets to the office,” Adewale added.
Adewale, known for his straightforward and practical approach to marriage and family issues, said intimacy should not be seen as sinful or shameful within marriage, but rather as a divine tool for building love and unity between spouses.
His comments have since generated mixed reactions on social media.
While many praised his openness and honesty for addressing a topic often considered taboo in religious settings, others questioned whether his views aligned with traditional Christian modesty and cultural expectations.
Some online users argued that his message promotes mutual satisfaction and understanding in marriage, while a few felt he went too far in his descriptions.
Pastor Bisi Adewale, founder of Family Booster Ministries International, has written several books and frequently hosts marriage and family seminars aimed at helping couples build stronger relationships.
